I never really understood the fascination behind Valentine’s Day. After all, when you are in love with someone, do you really need a ‘special’ day to celebrate it? Is your passion, your determination, and all your feelings worth just one single day in the calendar? What about the other 364 days? I don’t believe it. And neither should anyone. This doesn’t mean that I am against Valentine’s Day. What I propose and I believe everyone would agree on is that we should celebrate every single day and every single moment as Valentine’s Day. Because if you try to contain love within a single day, maybe it isn’t love after all. Imagine the lovers who are at a distance of 1000kms from each other. They hardly get to see each other over the course of the year and all their conversations involve a yearning to meet their partner, to hold them in their arms, to sit next to them, and express their love. Do you really think that they would care about Valentine’s Day? If given a chance, they would want to be with each other every single moment of the year. ONE day cannot quench the fire in their hearts which has been burning for a whole year.
Now, let’s simply talk about love. What is it? It is an emotion, a feeling, a sentiment you feel for any living or non-living object that makes you somewhat partial to them. Do you think celebrating it just for one day is enough? Maybe we are all simply following the rat race of Instagram posting and Facebook statuses. Maybe, we simply celebrate Valentine’s Day to show the world that we are in love. But is that really necessary? Isn’t it more important to believe in your own love? Isn’t it far more crucial to make your partner believe in your love than the world that probably has no interest in your personal affairs? I believe it to be so. Valentine’s Day has slowly turned away from the sacrifice of a saint for eternal love to a day designed specifically for consumerism. People throughout the world spend billions on cards, cakes, festivities, reservations in a posh restaurant, and if they are uber rich, tickets to a concert. What happened to sudden declarations of love that was bound to bring a glorious smile on your partner’s face? Why did it get replaced with a Hallmark’s card with the picture of a heart? When did love get replaced by materials?
These are few of the several questions that might make a true romantic ponder. When William Wordsworth or Lord Tennyson penned down their ballads dedicated to their love, they never really thought it would turn out to be another marketing gimmick. Again, not throwing shade on Valentine’s Day. Because if people are happy with celebrating one single day for love, maybe that’s a win too. It just needs to be seen that this love doesn’t just extinguish as the clock strikes twelve and heralds a new day. Let’s make it even simpler. Is love all about gifts? Is love all about expensive jewelry and expensive watches? What about someone who doesn’t have the means to buy these things? Isn’t he allowed to love or declare it? At the end of the day, isn’t love simply what your true feelings are? Maybe we can just do with a hug and a whispered ‘I love you’ too. For, if someone tells me that they love me, it would be way more valuable than a postal card with a $1000 tag. Love is all about human sentiments, something we as humans are forgetting, slowly.
But, not all can be blamed on the normal citizens of the world. Media and movies have all promoted the idea that Valentine’s Day is a special day which should be celebrated ‘specially’. But that isn’t at all correct. Any day that you spend with your love is special, and it need not only be romantic love. It could be platonic too. It could be love for your German Shepherd or any form of love that you feel from within. And that makes all the difference. Spend Valentine’s Day if you have to, but the key to a happy and true relationship is spending every day as if it were Valentine’s Day. A sudden kiss and a slow dance under the moonlight doesn’t need to be done just on 14th Feb. It can also be done on 14th March.
Love your partner. Don’t fall in love with the day. Featured Image Credit: Pixabay.com