As a man myself, I can vouch that we don’t want much. A tidbit here, an adjustment there, and we are absolutely good to go. And yet, relationships do get destroyed. I would never claim that every time a relationship went wrong, it was always the girl who messed up. I am not that vain, and neither are most men I know of. But perhaps, if the other person tried to understand us more, just like we were trying to understand them, then things would have been better. After all, at the end of the day, they chose us, and we chose them. If we didn’t plan to adjust and compromise with each other for peaceful coexistence, what was the point in it all?
Here are 4 things that a man will always want in a relationship. And these are based on my own personal experiences. I wouldn’t ever claim that I speak for all, because frankly, all men are different.
Every person wants to be appreciated. And that appreciation need not be lavish. A simple ‘Thank you. I love you’ is enough. Imagine coming back home after a hard day at work and seeing your man setting the table with all of your favorite dishes. Instead of making a sad and tired face due to the hectic day, why not smile at him once? Just a smile and a small kiss would not only make his day, but also make you happy. Appreciating him also means knowing that he is striving very hard to live a life that is satisfying on many levels and comfortable. Sometimes, you might get angry. Sometimes, you might get disappointed at the slow progress. Maybe you might even get frustrated. But instead of taking it out on him, why not talk to him calmly about it and tell him that you know that he is trying his best? That will show him that you appreciate him.
This is not just for men, but all of humanity. As a human being, I would love to be respected. And respect is always in the small things. If your man is talking, don’t interrupt. Let him finish and if you still have any questions, definitely ask him. Respecting him doesn’t mean being subservient to his demands. It just means accepting him as an equal. He deserves a bit of admiration and adoration. Respect him for what he has done in his life and if you think that he is making a fool out of your respect for him, do talk to him. Never shout him down when he is trying to make a point. Don’t cut his calls if he is worried about you. He cares for you and the most he wants from you is respect for that care.
Now this might seem odd, but your man would always want you to flirt with him even after you are in a relationship. Tell him how good he looks in the new suit that you bought for him. Be saucy at times. Just don’t lie. It shows and is disrespectful. If you really think he looks good, tell him that. And at times, men want it to be doled out straight to them. So, don’t be subtle. Hit them with the force of a bull in a china shop. And trust me, they would like it. But just like every other human, tune down your criticism a bit. Criticize, but remember that you love them too.
Be His Fantasy
He knows that you are a strong, independent woman who is incredibly capable in her own right. And that is a huge turn on for a lot of men. Even while some jerks might pretend that an over-achieving woman is a bit of a bore, no one can deny that they are impressed by what you have achieved in your life. Now, simply add that to the art of seduction, and voila, you have a man who is a bit too happy with the relationship. Be a tease. Tease him until he begs you for release.
But remember to never pressure him. For a man under pressure is a man who underperforms. In order to achieve full satisfaction in and out of the bed, let him run riot but guide him at times. Men want you to tell them what to do because it makes them feel special. Tell them how good he was and you would see the brightest smile on his face. To put it simply, if you be his fantasy in bed, he would be your prince for the rest of your life. Now, that’s a sweet deal, isn’t it?
So, this should help you understand what your man wants. But remember, nothing is better than talking. Just ask him what he wants.
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