From the beginning of time, men have dominated our society due to their seemingly more physical strength and assertiveness. Our society is largely patriarchal. Men believed that they are somehow superior or the head of the family and women suddenly became the weaker sex. Part of it may have been ingrained in us by biological necessities – men had to be physically stronger since they had to go out for hunting or they had to protect the family. The result was the creation of masculine stereotypes and the male ego. By equating strength as the be-all and end-all of society, men held the dominating position in society as a whole.
But that may have been in the past – now, we are no longer hunting! Intelligence plays a much bigger role in our survival right now than it did before. And with regards to our brains, there are hardly very few differences present gender-wise. We, as human beings, are equal now.
But biology does not really go away. Since men have had it implanted in their brains that somehow, they are superior, intelligent women have become a threat to them. Women of intelligence break their constructed idea of the world and immediately turn a danger for their mental ideals – which is why they are still more inclined to date feminine women.
A study has confirmed this finding and it has come as no surprise. The study asked the male participants whether they would like to date someone who is more intelligent than them and most of them said it would not be a problem. But when the result was actually tested, the participants backed out. Being more intelligent turned out to be a ‘turn off’ for these men.
It is not that they were lying at first. What psychologists are saying is that men like to admire intelligence in women and would support it from a distance. But they do not want to be physically involved with such a woman. This theory was proved by another study which defines how to the opposite gender works for males and how it is dependent on ‘distance’ from the person they are trying to date.
So, if we actually consider all the studies, then it is easy to identify that the male ego is still a driving factor for the survival of men. They have socially constructed roles implanted in their brains which they do not want to be broken – not yet at least. As a result, they still want to date more fragile and feminine women who do not challenge their position and thus, reinforce their behavior to dominate others. A more self-dependent woman would result in men backing away. Their wit can make them unattractive.
While it might seem like a terrible issue, we have to understand that development in this area has been quite recent. Women have been suppressed for a long time, and, now, intelligence in women is really showing up and bringing a novel situation for men to deal with. But while men might be going back on intelligent women right now, it won’t last for long. In due time, with proper education and training, there will be a lot of intelligent women in the world and it is clear that men would not have the choice to back down. So, even though biology might define part of the male ego at this moment, society can change it by breaking stereotypes and allowing women to be as intelligent as men.
However, not all men are like this. We cannot generalize a complete population based on a study done on a subset. For all the intelligent girls out there, this news should not be a heartbreaking one. You are ambitious and you need to follow your dreams – that will come first, no matter what. If someone finds that to be threatening then that is their problem, not yours. It just shows that the person is not the right match for you. There are many men out there who would support you in your endeavors and accept you the way you are. You don’t have to settle for anyone less. Go for someone equal.
Chase your dreams and don’t be afraid of conquering the world if you have the opportunity to do so. Nothing should stop you – especially external validation. You will find love eventually – but before that, learn to love yourself fully.
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