So, I was in a relationship some time ago with this woman that I loved dearly. I might not consider myself to be a relationship expert, but, what I am about to tell you is not what happens in a relationship. Rather, I am more interested in what gets you in that relationship in the first place. I mean, it is pretty obvious that you would love the person you are with, but how do you know that they are the one? How would you know, at that very point, that you love them with every fiber of your body? There are always some signs, some ways of understanding that. Humans respond by actions and if one is observant enough, they can easily identify the love their lover has for them.
See, no one knows what the future holds for anyone. Who you thought to be your mon ami might not be, 10 years down the line. But life is all about living in the present. And if the present tells you that they are the one, then they are most assuredly the one.
Here are 9 ways for you to determine that you have actually met, befriended, and fallen in love with the love of your life.
You Can’t Wait To Tell Them About Your Day
You don’t have to be in touch throughout the entire day, for you both live individual lives that might not be at all connected on a professional or educational level. But, when all is done, when you come back home to a warm cup of coffee, they are the first to know what happened to you the entire day. You don’t miss out on any details and they yearn to know more. For, they want to familiarize themselves even more with your life. And it wouldn’t go amiss to say that you tell them about your day because you somehow envision them living the same experiences with you as you are talking about it.
They Motivate You Through Words And Actions
There is a reason why Bill and Melinda Gates are such a power couple. They are both geniuses in their own way, who keep motivating each other to be better human beings every single day. And that is essentially what love is. To encourage, to inspire, to motivate the other person through one’s words and actions. I remember my love telling me one day, “If there is someone who can crack this test, it is you.” And that is motivation mixed with pride!
They Can Always Light Up Your Face
This isn’t a doozy. If you think someone loves you, they will always make you smile. Part of it could be your own inclination and bias towards them, but mostly, it would be their effort to see you smile that dazzling smile. For, not only are they trying to uplift your mood but they are also trying to uplift theirs. Might seem a bit ludicrous to understand, but somewhere down the line, your smile is their happiness.
They Are More Into Smaller Declarations of Love
One thing I have always noticed in my relationship is that it isn’t the big symbols of love that matter, it is always the small ones. Waking up early and wishing them luck by remembering that they have a test today is one such gesture. If they are in a bad mood you rush to the nearest shop and buy them ice cream. They look exceptionally beautiful today, so you find yourself in an empty corridor and dance to John Mayer. No superfluous gestures, but those that come straight from your heart!
Simple, yet rare. Extremely rare! People are weird creatures. They have two ears and one mouth, yet they use the latter more than the former. So much so that most wars could have been prevented if one simply listened. When it comes to matters of the heart, listening is important. And someone who loves you will always do so. It goes without saying that if you love the person, you would definitely listen to them. For when you listen, it makes the other person feel important, feel wanted, and feel special.
Your Interests Are Their Interests
Maybe not completely, but they would still bear with it to make you smile. They might not like shopping, but they would still go. For they know that it would make you happy. I remember spending two hours at a clothing store and almost dozing off. But I was rewarded for my ‘ordeal’ with a kiss. They know when someone does something only for them and so do you.
Let’s be blunt for a moment. You can’t expect someone to just cling onto you 24 hours of the day. They wouldn’t want to do so either. So if you find someone giving you your space so that you can put your thoughts in order, don’t let them go.
Mi Familia Es Su Familia
This translates to “My family is your family”. Period!
They Know You
Probably the most important on this list is the fact that they know you. They know your fears, your vulnerabilities and your habits. I saw my love at her weakest, most vulnerable point and honestly, if that doesn’t bring out love in you or anyone for the fact, they are not human. To put it simply, if someone loves you or if you love someone, they would not hold your weakness against you. They would know what you are thinking before you have said it out loud. And they would always know that they are on your mind.
Hope this helps you in finding the love of your life. It did, for me. Good luck!
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